Are you upset? Are you cursing your lot? Are you feeling blue because your partner is too possessive? Start with fresh vigor
and feel better to lead a life as you
wish.
1.Build up your strengths
What are your strengths? Have you ever focused on them? Stay
focused in the arena where you can prove yourself. If you can harness the best
skill you have, half the battle is won. Just make him feel that you are better
than others. Your partner would adore you and would listen to your suggestions.
2.Never hurt the ego
It is due to ego clashes the relationship suffers a lot. If
your partner is too possessive about you, just try to understand his problems. Try
to share his worries and never indulge in fights .If he is blaming you for something,
be patient to listen to the allegation and clarify later. You can discuss all
the points in writing and can submit the paper to him when he is in good mood. Try to solve the problem peacefully instead
of hurting each other.
3.Try to find out the
likes and dislikes
You must know the likes and dislikes of your partner. If he has some dress code and does not like the
western outfits, stay away from them for a few days. Later buy some western apparel
for him and coax him to wear them. Next it is your turn. Buy some for yourself
and wear them in front of him and not in the public. Just
let him feel the pros and cons of the dress you like to put on without hurting
his ego. If you go on a tour to some distant place, take these dresses and
convince him about their utility.
4.Know the food habit
We all know that a person’s heart can be won by making a way
through his stomach .The mouth-watering cuisines from various places can tempt
even the most jaded palate. So why don’t you try them? Opt for the dish which
your partner likes best. Offer the dish and let him know how you respect his likes
and dislikes. Sometimes, you can refer to your likes and dislikes indirectly and
ask him to respect yours too.
5.Don’t lose your cool
Never react if your partner is too possessive in a social
gathering and does not allow you to dance or participate in any kind of
activity which he does not like. Stay cool and never be aggressive. You can
discuss the issue on way back and can be analytical about the good and bad
aspects of the issue.
6.Boost up your
confidence
Always blaming your partner or holding on the notion that
you are always cornered and humiliated would not bring an end to the problem. Better be a winner than a loser .Never lose
your confidence and have patience with your partner .Your better-half would
never be in doubts about your love and passion and would realize the mistakes
committed earlier.
7.Forgive and forget
The best way to deal with an over-possessive person is to
forgive and forget the actions done by him .Forget the bad elements in his
character and think about the best part in him. Get rid of the negative
thoughts and forgive. You can always be the gainer if you forgive and sacrifice
your own self for someone else.
8.Act like a diplomat
Handle each and every situation carefully and tactfully. Your
single unmindful act can distort the beautiful relationship. Bear with him as
tolerance has an unyielding power to improve things. Don’t do anything which
can stimulate the suspicious nature of your partner.
9.Be honest
Always stay open and frank with your partner. Never try to
hide anything. Present each and every situation carefully as you know what can
be the most provoking situation. Maintain peace but if you can tolerate no
more, leave that place and don’t be a recipient of all his allegations.
10.Say sorry for your
mistakes
You are a human being and it is quite but natural that you
can commit mistakes. Say “Sorry” to your partner if you have committed anything
which he is totally against and promise never to repeat .
The bonding can be intact if you try to follow the
above-mentioned tactics. Breaking a relationship is a one-minute game .But it
needs ages to build up the same . Would you like to deconstruct or would you like to reconstruct? It is better
to reconstruct .
Just like a mother , you can handle your naughty partner patiently and be a
winner , not a loser.
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